I had no child to celebrate my 60th birthday, actress Dupe Jayesimi opens up on failed marriage, infertility

 Veteran actress Dupe Jayesimi has shared the heartbreaking story of infertility, a failed marriage and the pain of being childless. 

In an interview with Biola Bayo on her podcast ‘Talk to B’, Dupe revealed that she experienced a miscarriage after her marriage, which led to marital disputes and divorce.

Jayesimi stated her ex-husband quickly moved on and brought his pregnant girlfriend into their former home, leaving her devastated. 

She also shared her experience with IVF, which was unsuccessful and the emotional toll it took on her.

Despite her challenges, Jayesimi expressed gratitude for the opportunity to help raise many children, although they have since turned their backs on her. 

She held onto hope, believing that as long as she is alive, there is a chance for celebration and fulfillment.

She said in part: “When I was pregnant, I was happy. It was later, the doctors observed that the baby was at the back of my womb. It was like I should get swallowed by the ground.

“I questioned God, “I shouldn’t lie after so many years. I was 40 years old when it happened.

“My mum refused and said I should adopt any child, that she would feed the child till death. So many children that I have taken good care of don’t even look back to check on me. Is it my younger sister’s kid, or name them?

“For now, I have no other job than theatre, and it isn’t paying like before. May God not let me suffer in old age. It has been seven years since I worked last.

“I did marry when I was pregnant, but weeks after,, I had a miscarriage. Whenever my husband and I wanted to sleep, he would use a pillow to demarcate the bed. So our body wouldn’t touch.

“Two weeks after I left my husband’s house, he had a new wife come in immediately with pregnancy. I cried. I am not an alcohølic person, but because of that, I did turn into a drunkard.

“I determined I wasn’t going to marry. I did IVF twice, and it got to a stage where I used to see a drop of blood every evening.

“My father told me I shouldn’t fight anyone over their things: property, money and men.

“I know how it is to be celebrated by your own kids. I haven’t seen anyone to celebrate me before. I had no child of my own to celebrate my 60th birthday. I believe that no one will ever die and get dropped on the roadside. And they say it’s because she didn’t give birth. If there’s still life there’s always hope”.